Although we try to remain positive, Karen and I are seeing Clint deteriorate every day. He is very weak, unable to stand on his own or walk with the walker without our assistance. He is in pain and is very confused, not always remembering how to do simple tasks like brush his teeth. He sleeps most of the time and has no appetite, eating very little. Over the next few days he has scans to look at whether the cancer advanced and even if it has, he is too weak to have any treatment.
He is no longer able to check his emails, but if you send messages to me at my email account, I will read them to him. (suecantan@hotmail.com)
Sometimes he is quite lucid on the phone, but more often muddled and slurred in his speech.
If you want to see Clint and you don’t live in Toronto, you might want to make travel plans to get here in the near future. We of course understand full well that this is a hectic time of year for everyone, with the holidays coming up so soon, and we are glad that some of you have been able to visit here this past summer and fall, when Clint was more of his old self. Those who live close by can of course pop in any time, but you’ll have to take us as you find us.
The palliative team is offering us the support of a doctor, nurse, physiotherapist and volunteers who will stay with Clint to allow Karen and I to get out for short periods of time.
This is by far the hardest post I have had to make since I began the blog when Clint was first diagnosed, but I'm doing it because I want you, all of our wonderful and supportive friends to have the choice of visiting him if you are able.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Dear, dear Sue,
ReplyDeleteYou are like the Rock of Gibraltar. I cannot imagine how you continue to find the strength to care for Clint as lovingly as you do, but also to bring comfort to the friends and family who are out here, often feeling rather helpless and paralyzed by the sadness of Clint's illness. I want you to know that the effort you have put into finding the amazing quotes (such as the latest by Emerson) has been
appreciated. I really find that these words do help... their wisdom and sage guidance are being treasured.
Love and hugs to you and Clint
Sue
The worst thing is the excruciating pain I feel watching his pain. I'd take it all myself if I thought it would help, but life is not like that. Whenever I think how unfair it is that this has happened to such a gentle, kind soul as Clint, I think of my mother's words "Whoever told you life was fair?"
ReplyDeleteKeeping the blog has been quite cathartic for me and as you say, the quotes do seem to help a little.
Sue